Individuality, authenticity and your wedding.

I wonder if you've come across this article...

 Something borrowed: the rise of the identikit wedding.’  Published on the Guardian website recently. If you have a chance to read it, I'd be really interested to hear your thoughts.  I came to it via a pretty passionate response written by Annabel Beeforth on Love My Dress.

After reading first the response, then the original article, my initial reaction was that it was a bit of a throwaway piece, taken a bit more seriously than intended. Maybe that's the problem though: weddings (how ever out of control they can get) deserve to be taken seriously. Gathering friends and family to witness your commitment to each other above anyone else is pretty monumental.


The Guardian article claims all weddings seem to blur into each other

Identical details, lifted from Pinterest,  popping up time and again. Weddings, perhaps more than anything else, are a product of their time. After all, a wedding draws on so many different strands of our culture: fashion, food, music, literature, graphic design... It would be pretty odd if each and every wedding this year were radically different. 

Something about the article's joyless tone bothers me. Weddings conjure a whole host of emotions, but surely if you're doing it right, love and celebration should be the overall tone. Certainly some things keep on being used: I walked down the aisle, like many brides, to Pachelbel's Cannon in D (probably a bad plan - it's always made me well up!), and about 90 percent of church weddings I've been involved with have included that Corinthians reading (you know the one). But that's not the point: if those things speak to you, if they're choices that come from the heart, then it really doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. 


The world of weddings (both professionals and clients) is full of wonderful, creative people.

More than anything else, I take issue with the accusation that the wedding industry is money grabbing and lacking in creativity. It makes me sad that this bride-to-be has merely skimmed the surface, dismissing at a stroke the thousands of wedding professionals, working ridiculous hours (and often a second job) to peruse their individual creative passions, and make weddings beautiful, personal occasions. There is so much originality out there, so much beautifully crafted work that the internet, and in particular wedding blogs, have made it so easy to access.

I'm heartened by Annabel at Love My Dress's response to the idea all couples must conform to a type.  She sums it up like this:

Just focus on what you love and like – shapes, colours, tastes, flavours, scents, locations – when you’re working through all of these things as you plan your wedding, take note of how they make you feel inside. If they make your heart leap, if they provide a sense of joy and excitement and delight, then you’re on the right track.

At the end of the day the most important element of any wedding is the people.

It's about you and your partner making your vows. It's about the tears, the laughter, the love and the really bad dancing. The choices you make should help you create amazing memories. Yes the styling will date, but your Nan in the photo booth after a brandy? timeless!